Hello ladies and gents,
I wanted to know the answer two an age old question, "Is Chivalry is Dead?" and "Is Romance overrated?" I love being a romantic person, when I am in love or infatuated. I tend to really go all out, while some men don't even know how to get it started and some woman don't know how to accept it! Seriously romance is NOT about how much money you spent. For instance, I had this guy cook me dinner and after dinner he cut up some fruit (different kinds) and fed me each one. Now That's romance! The truth about romance is that you can show someone how much you appreciate them and also show them how much you are into them. After you answered the questions above tell me about one your most romantic nights. What you gave and what was given and yes they can be two separate situations.
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I guess it is dead because no one responded..........lol...
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ro?mance ?? (r-mns, rmns) KEY ?
NOUN:
A love affair.
Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love:
A strong, sometimes short-lived attachment, fascination, or enthusiasm for something:
VERB:
tr.
Informal
To make love to; court or woo.
To have a love affair with.
I like the Verb: Romance me being an action person I want to be made love to, courted and wooed.........SHOW ME!!!!
Well with that being said Chivalry is not dead I just think it is in hibernation.......LOL
And both sexes are to blame we take for granted love and life and it becomes a routine, then the importance of opening doors, small kind acknowledgements and something as simple as cutting fruit and feeding it to each other becomes obsolete. How do we get it back? How do we know what is real romance and what is not?
Who are more romantic individuals me or women?
According to the definition above have I been romanced and didn't know it?..........LOL
On romance...The MOST important factor in romance is the level of commitment involved. Most (definitely not all) women "assume" every man she is introduced to or agrees to connect with is interested in being her boyfriend or s/o which is certainly not true...as little as 10% of the men you meet really want to be your man. As such, the % of romantic situations she'll encounter are proportionate to that. Honestly men have no real incentive to be for real, for real romantic because it's far easier to land a drunk chick in the club and w/o all the drama, nagging, compromising, yadda yadda yadda that comes with having a steady woman. In summary, for what alot(not all) of men want, impaired p*ssy from a miscellaneous chick is just as good, if not better than having to romance a virtuous woman...all the meat...without the fat!
I hope you didnt think dude was being all romantic just 'cuz???!!! He just really wanted to feed you into submission. You know folks get the "itis" after a meal. He knew you'd be more relaxed and probably ready to lay it down, lol!
And seeing that he is referenced as "this guy" and not your man or a guy you're seeing, can we assume that this man has come and gone? He did all that and now what...pimpin is out of the picture! That substantiates my point!
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Tae,
The question was not what do you do when you want to get laid. It is about Chivalry and Romance. I would not to expect every man to romance every woman that he runs across, but what I about that woman you are really feeling? That woman that you want to get to know beyond the sheets?
And oh yeah "that guy" is a class act. And no one feeds me into submission unless I give them permission.
Folks get the "itis" by eating food that is not good for them. We ate healthy............lol.....
reread your own post baby doll...it wasn't specified to what extent a man was involved with a woman would he romance her. Males of all species have an innate disposition to wanna reproduce...or in humans to "act" like we're reproducing, for pleasure.
That's where we lose women. Men don't have to have romance to have sex. And let's make it clear that when women say romance, men hear sex...point blank. When men say romance, we mean sex, but women hear, candlelit dinner, long walks in the park, foot massages, kissing passionately, reading/writing poetry for you, washing your car, paying a bill...etc.
We see all those things as just means to an end. As it relates to someone we're really feeling, we may take the time to lay the groundwork and do all those things in hopes that we will get "some". Otherwise if it can be had without, we'll take the path of least resistance.
The question you should be asking is what can men and women do for one another where both our needs can be met, you wanting to be romanced and our wanting to get laid? To you being romanced may be an important element to lead to sex, maybe, but to us romance is one more element GETTING IN THE WAY of me getting sex. And lawd knows we have alot of roadblocks that can potentially get thrown in the way, e.g., headaches, sleepiness, fatigue, being irrtitable, periods, baby in the house, baby in the room, parents at home, not feeling sexy, bad hair day, didn't shave today, i just want to be held, to name a few, lol!
Tae
Tae,
I think you need to re-read my post, cabbage patch doll......lol
The question again, "Is Chivalry is Dead?" and "Is Romance overrated?" I have outlined what defintion of the romance I was referring to, however you have another idea entirely.
For you, romance equates sex, but I am sure not all men feel that way as in not all women may not like my definition of romance. But if the only thing you have to look forward too is having sex then your life seems pretty dull. Anyone can have sex, dogs, monkeys etc. but it takes a HUMAN to actually connect with someone on a different level.
I honestly think you have not found any lady in which sex and intimacy have much more meaning than a wet spot on your sheets.
Maybe you will always feel this way. I suspect that you would not have any issues getting sex so I thought that those who have can distinguish between the two.
Maybe it's the ones who don't get sex who needs to bribe a woman with your so called "romance" in order to get laid............lol
But romance is a facet of sexual intimacy, and not independent of. And if you do your research, you'll find that romance has taken a back seat in relationships throughout the history of time. Most marriages were arranged for purposes of financial or political gain with romance being no part of the equation.
And as much as you may not want to accept it, men have no desire to be romanced, it's strictly something you women creatures keep naggin us with,lol. All we want in life is sex, with a little football and beer sprinkled in. All that other stuff like caring about your feelings, hugging, kissing, holding hands and remembering to let the toilet seat down is so we can continue to get sex from you! We are beasts baby!
tae
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