Why do men love the women they can catch versus the women that's a great catch? You know what I am talking about ladies and gents. Men love to hunt their prey. Men are natural competitors, they would like to divide and conquer at every task! So does that mean that I should start playing coy and shy or unattainable if I really am in to the guy? Do I have to resort to playing games in order to pursue a relationship?
I am interested in hearing from the men today, those who apply step up to the plate.
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I dont think that is just a problem with men, that is everyone period. No one wants the easy win, they want to fight for it. Same reason women dont want the guy who listens to them, buys the flowers, fixes their bathwater...they want the thug, bad boy with 20 tats who doesn't work and is rude to them..why do women like the bad boys? Nice guys finish last....however, men do want a great catch. But what constitutes a great catch? Is it because you think you are, or do men strive to be with you because they feel you are? How you answer that is neither right nor wrong but something to think about....if you put your life down as a resume, would YOU be with YOU?
If I put my life down on a resume I wouldbe with me all up through. I would hire ASAP. The thing is someone who has great qualities are hard to come by so you want to get the talent before the competitors do.
I could go in so many directions with this but I will just hit on a few.
Great comment by the way about the resume.
#1 Women are dreamers and many are looking for the perfect man. But what is the perfect man? Would you know him if he came into your life? Are you really ready for the perfect man for you?
#2 I have seen the women of this generation grew up thinking that they would not turn out like their mom. Yes I will leave that very general ..... and their dad was the "bad" person in the relationship. So many grew up with little to no respect for a man. Now as a adult all of a sudden your suppose to be able to love honor and respect a man when all along it has not happen in your life. The only man a woman respect honors and would listen to is GOD.
#3 I have also notice how some women want to be the King and Queen at the same time.
I'm not here to put any or all women down but lets face it we think different. We as men don't have to have the perfect woman as long as she is willing to ......... (for each of us it is different ending to that statement) or they come with an "at least" She is always over her momma house but at least she ...... (again you can fill in the blank).
This only one man's thoughts
I think that is the typical response, you would be with you and hire ASAP..not saying that you are not a worthy candidate for the job, but did you really take a hard look at things you may need to work on? Things that may not be up to par with yourself? Its easy to always look at the opposite sex and say "they are missing out on a good thing" but is that true? Or could it be that you are not really ready for the job? When you are single, that is the perfect time to work on yourself and although you may think you possess all of the qualities that are perfect for a relationship, you very well may not....and as time goes on you become cynical and think that the problem lies with those who dont take the time to be with you, where in reality it may be that you don't even see it...
A relationship is a full time job, a candidate may look good when you initially meet them, but after they have been on the job for awhile you can see their habits,the positives, the negatives..then you can determine if they are part time help or if you want to make them a partner.
Big Texas, I believe you bring up great points. But I have to say that I don't think any man nor woman is perfect. Does Perfect really exist? When I am selected for a possible relationship, what I step back and look at is chemistry. If it snowed outside and we were trapped in for days would I be comfortable with this person or would I go stir crazy. Another characteristic that I look at, is would this person be a great husband and father. I look at these so early on because I don't want to date any man I don't want to be stuck with, because truth be told life happens and so do situations.
I do think some women want to be King and Queen, but some men let them!
As for me I prefer to master one role. Too many chiefs makes the REIGN fall!
anonymous,I think that you are correct most people would say yes they would hire themselves. What I learned early on in life is the first thing you market is "Oneself". Faith and Hope has always made a good ending. If I don't believe then who will believe for me. Like I said before no one is perfect and I am not! Now if you ask the questions do I have things to work on, then yes, because we all do! If you are living life close to God your walk for renewal and restoring oneself is never done.
The perfect employee is the one who doesnt mind growing with the company, the employee is has perfected everything learns nothing! And no one wants to work with them!
Hey remember I said many women .... THIS IS NOT A PERSONAL ATTACK ON YOU OR WOMEN, just some answers to maybe help you out. So if your not in that group then my comments were not pointing in your direction.
I can only speak on my life experiences and I know alot of women 27-35 single 0-1 on the kids never been married so again as a generation you have to wonder are men really that bad???????
Just think over the men you have dated and of those you mean to tell me not one of them was marriage material?
In the end I can only be me so like me love me hate on me or hate me either way I'm still be Big Texas
Big Texas, no one is getting hostile boo,(all caps) so chill, anyone can comment on what you say regardless if it was directed towards them or not.
As the moderator let's chalk up an opinion as just that, so if no one is cursing you or defaming your character lets respond, reflect and don't take it personal.
Now you make great points and we welcome educated feedbacks. Please continue
As I reflect on your question, 90 percent of the men I have dated where great material for marriage. The 10 percent, I was straight tripping!...........lol.
Big Texas now you know if you make a girl that took your breathe away and she had great qualities for a mate you would go over and beyond to get her to like you they way you like her? Would I be wrong in that assessment?
#1 I work in a field where we type in all CAPS and when i realize it was on I took it off and continued ..... again don't take it personal.
Hey I don't find going after what I want and doing that is why I'm in the relationship that I'm in now.
But like I said earlier I can only speak from what has happen in my life.
Your single for a reason weather it be bags from your previous or the all men .......
look back at the first comment I made. I could go in many directions with this ...... I know from the fellas that I hang with ani't none of us shhhhhyt from the public eye. But if you ever get to know one of us we are all great catches but for a select few. Ones that can put up with our shall we say bs
I will be the first to say if you date me you have your hands full, but you also have a good man.
I think you should post your resume and allow a few of us to go over it before your next interview ...... consider us like a job hunter
LOL!!!!!!!!!!!! (yes I ment to use all caps)
Lol. Yeah thats a good idea. But no one wants their resume critiqued by a job that you don't want anyway.............lol.........
Which brings me to my next question, Is being a good man or woman means you will be good for everyone? If not then should we say I'm a good to who is a good fit for me?
Men,you all have yet to truly answer following questions asked that started this blog from jump.
1.Why do men love the women they can catch versus the women that's a great catch?
2.So does that mean that I should start playing coy and shy or unattainable if I really am in to the guy?
3. Do I have to resort to playing games in order to pursue a relationship?
Thanks Culinary QT, you are right us SBW's has yet to get an answer out of a man.
LOL here's your answer in point blank words
we love the women for that reason alone ... we can catch them.
what's good to you is great to someone else and what's great to you is good to someone else
by the way if i can't catch it how do I know it is a "great catch"
Games well thats on you but some men like aggressive women some don't just like some like games playing them as well but you just have to find your match.
Maybe your seeking "jobs" you don't qualify for (in his eyes) and the jobs your perfect for you keep over looking because you want "that" job
lol
by the way sista breath..... we can't speak for all men you might want to do a "job" evaluation and seek men in your past and ask them why did you lose that "job" You might be suprise of the answers
you know what let me stop being nice know your roll and play it. Someone must not know their roll and so now "all men" are grouped. If you know what we love then either you can roll with us or get rolled over. Trust me when I say what you want do another will.
First response: If a woman is such a great catch, then why has no one "caught her" yet? It's not a matter of a man loving the women he can catch versus a great catch, it's a matter of what that man prefers. Its easy for a woman to look at a man, see him with someone else, and ask the question "why is he with HER?"...same reason plenty of women are dating/kicking it with a dude but he may be dating/kicking it with other women or does not settle down with you, although you very well may be a "great catch", you are not the woman HE wants to catch or you may not be a great catch to him, thus the reason you are where you are now in his eyes...
Second response: Why play at all? If you are into a guy, why be unattainable?..that means I can't catch you, remember? But you are the great catch....no seriously, be honest, straight up, we dont like to play games, or at least the guys I know dont. If I like you and you like me and we want to pursue something then so be it, I dont need the head games for 5 weeks and be out all my money from taking you out for you tell me A) you like me or B) you dont.
Third response: You can get some answers in my second response, but if you are a game player, then you may want to start dating guys in high school. Why should you play games? What purpose does that serve? I think its all a matter of knowing what you want and excepting reality....sometimes reality is you may want a person and they dont want u, but you think they are playing games with you but they have made it clear and you just refuse to except the answers that are staring you in the face. Sometimes a person wont just come out and say "hey you cool, we get along, but you just aint "that" person for me. But if a person did, would that make you feel better? If you want to know, just ask the question...simple as that. No point in playing games, let's leave that to the professional sports players.
Interesting. Just because you can find a woman that will do the things the other won't, does not mean that "YOU" desire her more!
The Great Catch is the woman that will do for you, that most won't!
Hence the question from the original post. Which is Why do men love the women they can catch versus the women that's a great catch?
This is the general question not one leading towards one's past escapades!
Has yet to be ansered!
Great Comments Big Texas!
Response to afrodesia's question, I think you already know the answer. Being "good" does not mean that definition will fit every person, every equation. What's good for you may not be good for me. You have to find that person that appreciates your qualities and enjoys/loves those aspects about you, then it becomes a "good fit".
PVU Finest, lets not start assuming, no one said she was never caught!
But I have to say your post directly reflect some of the answers that could spark the conversation into a new way of thinking.
I think all of us women at some point has looked at a guy that we were feeling and he was with someone else and you said "Why is he with her"
PVU Finest, I think thats idea of playing game was never in the cards for a woman who is a great catch. It's more of sarcasm. I real woman can't operate like that. Or at least I like to hope we wouldn't resort to such juvenile reactions.
it was answered but maybe it is not the answer your looking for.
we love her because we can catch her, the great catch we have no clue about.
is that simple enough or still not a answer.
how about you answer it.
Earlier you said you only play one roll and I ask what is that King or Queen?
Lol..........Big Texas, the role I play is Queen. What's your role?
I think the question has been answered several times, and in several different ways, but it goes back to people here what they want to hear. You may not be receiving the answer that you want to hear, but the question has been answered. Men choose who they want, whether it's a great catch or good catch or bad catch in your eyes doesnt matter, because they didnt choose that other woman. They chose who they chose because that is best for them. Men and women are just two totally different beings. Same reason why I have never understood how you can be in a club, and a woman walks in, and may look nice, and every other woman in the spot who feels threatened will immediately start talking about her hair, makeup, her stomach, anything and everything because she receives the attention....she may be a woman I can catch, but she isnt the great catch to you, but she is to me....so you have to respect that choice a man makes and move on. So the point is mute. There is someone for everyone, and if and when you find that someone, hold on to them, dont play games and be THAT person for THEM.
I'm from a area where only lions King of the jungle come from.
I know my role and play it well. But when I run across those part time kings part time queens (some refer to them as Independent women) is when I have to put some nike's on the (check'em). That's why I wear adidas no checking here.
LOL!!!!
And I don't mind telling a female to play her roll. If you play your roll do your part answer the question like I ask them then we want have any problems
Amen.
PVU's finest, you are right women who feel threatend comment, women who has class my give her a compliment and it's back to business as usuall.
Big Texas that was a funny comment! Now what is the woman's role?
you gets no help from me
remember earlier I was going to review you "job" application red line it and send it back.
if you don't know your role it's up to you to find out.
There are plenty of books out there for you to read.
Knowledge is key
Honestly all jokes aside, some nice answers have been given, not saying it's all right but based on the group on the panel then you have something to work with.
now what happen to the other one (culinaryqt)whom jummped in and out ... lets hear from her I know she has something to say
Big Texas you are too funny....... :-)
But on a serious tip, I need no help securing a job, the jobs that came around I did not want! Looking for something more competitive.
All posts and comments are strickly to encourage dialogue not to live life by.
So these are not post to help the moderator, these are question that are posed to converse.
Let's not confuse who sparks the conversation as the one "needing" anything.
What's the next topic?
Mrs. Fashion is about to get us started with a new topic in the next 20 minutes.
Culinaryqt is here! I have been checking in from time to time to check out yall's opinions. From what I gather or as i like to say, "BIG PICTURE," everyone thinks he/she is be a "great catch," but in the eyes of others (man or woman) u very well may not be. What we all must realize is that self actualization is key, u must learn and improve self before one can ever question the actions and mindset of others.
If a woman wants to label herself as "independent," she is allowed to do so. However, she must also know her place as a woman seeking out a man or once he has sought her out. That place is to be his confidant, nurturer, and supporter.
I agree that now nor never is there a time for games. If the parties involved are not willing to be 100 with each other then they both should throw in the towel. Women nor men should subject themselves to games expecially if they are over ther age of 25. In my experience I have found that making assumption only makes an ass out of the one who assumes. One should ask relavent questions and be able to handle whatever answers they receive.
I see things like this. I for one do not wish to be sought out by a boy;I expect to be sought out by a man. In saying that, a man knows his role as well as mine. He will act accordingly. Thus, if he recognizes that i'm a "Great c
Catch," he will see fit to secure me. Leaving no room for games.
Culinary QT, I must say you on point with your reply.
I would agree, if men are secure on there rolls then they will know when a woman are great catch.
Men who pass by, may not be great for a woman even if the woman desires him.
That was a great response Culinary. Case closed.
Afrodesia, I think you missed the point Culinary was making, it's not if men are secure then they know who is a great catch, it's a matter of both parties knowing themselves and knowing their roles and who they are. I think so much is always put on the "man" when in actuality it's both sides. I could be wrong, but that is what I took out of her response. Just my opinion.
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