Lovers and Friends by Nylajar

A friend of mine told me the other day that a man doesn’t want to be cool with his woman, you know, she becomes his homie because that is the one woman he can never lie to and the one woman he is afraid of losing control over…I’m a little confused on that one because most men say they want a woman who is his best friend and many women say the same. I personally feel like a woman should be able to kick it with her dude and his homeboys and I think a dude should be able to kick it with his girl and her homegirls from time to time. However, many say you shouldn’t mix the two worlds but I disagree. I think a woman should be able to hit the bar and watch a game with her man from time to time and he should be able to hit the mall with her from time to time to go shopping or even hit up the nail shop. They should be able to do some of the things that same-sex friends do…but is that too much for a relationship? I personally think that a man should be able to hang out with his boys alone, she hang out with her girls alone from time to time but they can intertwine the two sometimes. However, I think sometimes the friends are the ones that have a problem because they will say, “Dang, why is he bringing her with him to watch the game, this is a man’s world” or “Dang, why she bringing him shopping with us?”….As long as you balance your alone time with your together time, should it be a problem that you hang out with your girl/gal’s friends from time to time?