Dating 101

I sitting thinking about the single lifestyle and how it can be complex if you been out of the single game for a minute. You have to readjust your way of thinking if you are a neo to single life and that's just not one sided that goes for men and women. So I decided to help my plurally challenged (single) peeps. Here are some tips you should chew on before you began dating again:

1. Do NOT sleep with anyone you can't see yourself having children with! If they are annoying but the sex is good, keep it moving! I rather have mediocre sex with a good person than sex with one that will drive me crazy and then 9 months later a baby enters the picture and now you're stuck with this person for 18 plus years....

2. Do NOT talk badly about your EX. I don't care if he or she was the scum of the earth, move on. No one wants to be with bitter person. If you find yourself in a situation where he or she ask about your past relationship just be easy.

3. Do NOT seem overly eager to go out on a date. I mean it makes it seems as if no one ever ask you out EVER. Now sure you may be excited about your new prospect but save that energy for the actual date.

4. Don't act like you broke! This just means ladies don't act so eager to go out to dinner like you can't buy your own meal and men don't try and dodge taking a lady out to dinner because you think that's all she wants. Ladies if it's not about the money for you make suggestions of things you all could that doesn't cost money. This will impress him and Men be creative not every date has to fall inline around the lunch and dinner hour. Why not go for yogurt? (ladies love yogurt).

5. If you got nice things, quit infusing those "nice" things in to the conversation. No one cares that you drive a Mercedes, have a flat screen tv, you rock gucci, prada or Louis. It comes off as pretentious and it's NOT sexy. It also makes you seem that your personality is lacking.

6. Don't act like you're in relatioship because you went on more than one date. If he or she does not call you back then let it roll off your shoulders. No one is committed to no one and you should be dating multiple people anyhow. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Men have mastered this art but women we should take notes.

7. Do NOT invite your date over to your home until you have been dating at least a month. It just gets too messy. There is a level of trust on both sides that need to exist before this happens. You need to have some since of does this person has potential to last.

8. Brush up on your conversation skills. There is nothing more annoying than to have a non conversation, conversation with someone. Look at the news, read a book, or find our what the other person likes and learn about it a little. You can't win over any hearts with boring conversation!

Okay these are just a few, but I think there are more you can add to the list tell us what should be added to the dating rules?

Happy Belated Birthday Michael Jackson (RIP)

Honey I'm Home

HONEY I’M HOME…………By Asimplejoy
So I was talking to this guy last night and we were talking about relationships. And I asked him when was his last relationship? He told me when he first moved to the area he dated this girl for about 6 months and she wanted a relationship but he wasn’t ready because he had just relocated. So I said after her I bet the next chick became your girlfriend and I am willing to bet that it was quick. He was like actually it was I just woke up one day and we were in a relationship. And this was maybe 3 months Iater….WOW!!! I told him that it is pretty funny how you can have one chick that is down for you and all she wants to do is make it official. But on the other hand the other chick wants the same thing but she kept it on the hush hush and she is the one that ends up being your lady. What baffles me is ……what’s the difference between the two women? Just because the other woman didn’t say anything and didn’t mention it you automatically make her your girl? How many people have just “woke up” and were in a relationship? Do people really say “I want you to be my man or woman?” Or is it assumed?

Free For All Friday's

Has this ever happened to You? Maybe not, still painful yet funny to watch. Well it's story book Friday! So please share your random thoughts and stories about your dating life. The Good, The Bad and The Ugly. Share a funny story if you dare :-)

.....Flattered or too Aggressive?

Written by AsimpleJoy

Soooo………I was talking to this guy that said and I quote “I like black women but I don’t date a lot of black women” of course I wanted to know what he meant and he proceeded to say that “black women act as if they don’t want to approach men or act interested.” And I thought to myself interesting because I am a somewhat shy person and I would have no idea really how to approach a man let alone act as if I am available. Ok so the other day I was at a department store and I saw this cute handsome tall drink of iced tea. And of course people that know me know I am not the most social person. But I decided that if we ended up in line together I would say something. Of course we ended up in line together and I used my natural humorous charm to strike up a conversation. To make a long story short he seemed flattered and upon leaving the store he made sure that he was able to bid me farewell………… So my question refers to role reversal, you have men that say a woman should be free to pursue a man? But on the flip side you want the woman to be submissive and not too aggressive so my question is…………….. Do you like it when a woman approaches you? Or do you prefer to hunt?

Deuces: Throwing the Deuces after 2 Years

I had a friend that was dating this guy and they really hit it off. Both agreed that they are ready to settle down and only only was dating people who were looking for the same thing. She was 30 and he was 32. In her mind, she had already given herself a date in which he needed to propose within and if he did not, she was okay with moving on. Now don't get me wrong, she did NOT give him an ultimatum, No! She just simply knew in her heart and mind that she knew she could only invest two years to someone who stated they were also ready. See she felt that if both were on the same page mentally about wants and needs that it shouldn't take more than 2 years for him to make a commitment and I agree with that. When those 2 years was up, she moved on and he did not try to win her back, ans she felt like she made the right decision. She is now married to someone else.

So peeps, do you think there should be a time limit on dating? if so, what's yours? or Do you think time limits eventhough it's not an ultimatum is fair?

Soundtrack for the post: Deuces by Chris Brown

The Disappearing Acts written by Asimplejoy

TheDisappearing Act.....
written by Asimplejoy
Ladies and gentleman alike I will know that we can all relate to this……………….
You are out solo or with friends and a nice lady or fella step to you (or in the fellas case maybe you stepped to her) and they tell you how they liked what they saw and would be interested in getting to know you. You chat it up for a few minutes or even an hour and you think to yourself “Ok this person is cool” so you give them the digits…………… Days later you meet out for dinner or drinks and the conversation gets even better. After a couple of late night conversations you start to think there is some potential so you began to open yourself up to the possibility. A few weeks later friendship starts to blossom and you start to feel more confident in the person you are seeing. You both agree that this is the making of a good friendship and seem to be on the right page.
The next day the phone calls stop cold……………and this person disappears from your life.
Have you ever been this person? Not the optimistic one in the story but the one that disappeared? So why did you disappear?????

Too Early? by Coolloyd

Too Early written by Coolloyd

I went out on a date with this very sweet young lady recently and had an interesting experience with who I'll call "Open Olivia". Olivia found it interesting to tell me ALL her business on our second date. While I'm one for openness and honesty. She went on about her last THREE abusive boyfriends, how she and her mom don't get along ever since her step daddy tried to flirt with her. That she did some "dancing" in college but now it's out of her system. How she thinks her son is gonna be a thug like his daddy. I'm sitting here wondering why is she reading me the back chapters of her autobiography, but aside from me labeling her NUTZ and chunking the deuces, it had me wondering, when is the appropriate time to talk about "The Baggage"? I'm sure it's not the first or second date, but I'm also sure it's not at the honeymoon either.

What information should be brought to the table? Should a guy know you had 4 abortions? Did 2 weeks in jail for stabbing your ex boyfriend? Filed bankruptcy so you didn't have to pay your Dillards bill? Kissed a girl (well we'd love to know that one)? What type of stuff should NEVER be talked about?