YES I HAVE...........

"YES I HAVE" is the words that you read as a text message. Never thought those three little words would have you looking at some things quite differently.

So you just left your "boos" house someone you digging and have been seeing for some time.

You always look forward to chilling with them..............you do the usual hangout, watch tv or movies, talk, laugh and don't for get the dessert at the end of the night. As you leave that next morning you get a strange sense of a question to ask. You know if you ask them you are going go get a "straight up" answer since that is their personality. So you go for it............."Are you sleeping with anyone else?"

You wait patiently a little nervous but the text message indicator goes off and you read the words "Yes I have".........Why all of a sudden you feel nauseous? Yeah something you should have ask day one but who really does........ Now you want nothing to do with them........funny because didn't you sleep with someone else? Double standard? Why do you feel this way? Do you stay or runaway?

What You Always Wanted To Say!

Men, I am sure there is something you always wanted to tell black women, but you just didnt have a chance to say it, or you didn't feel compell to share.It can be from advice to things you like or dislike. Well here is an opportunity for you to get on your soapbox. What would you like to tell all single black females out there. We are listening!

Playoff Time! All Jokes Aside!

It's Play-Off Time boys and girls, ladies and gents. And No!, I am not talking about the NBA Play-Off's. I am referring to the games some men play. These are the type of men who play on your every word and tries to fulfill you desires only to leave the woman dumbfounded, asking "What happened?". These are the men who wine and dine you when you first meet them and a month later it's over. These are the men who say they don't want DRAMA or desires a DRAMA FREE relationship and at all cost they try to start an dramatical situation. So it's Play-OFF time, GENTS. See I don't get caught up in games men play because I can see it a mile a way......I didn't play games as a child so I dont have time to play them as an adult.....Why do some men play games? Are their lives that unfulfilling?

March Madness

With this month being "Men's Month" (March Madness), a lot of men are looking for good food, a great game and a woman to caress them if there team lose..........lol....It's always been said that the way to a man's heart is through food, sex and sports! Is this true? Does it matter if the woman you are interested in have two of these qualities instead of all three? What if she has one of these qualties or none? Tell me what you think and put them in the order of importance to you!

Good Guys vs. Thugs

Today I wanted to pose questions that the guys wanted to know the answer too. It seems that this questions as always needed to be addressed and what better way that to ask it straight out.

Why do women like the "thug types" versus the "good guy types"?

What Makes You Commit ?

Commitment is hard to acheive especially if you are happy by yourself. Often women crave it and men dodge it. Sometimes we even ignore it because you could get all of the things commitment offers without actually putting in the leg work, and that goes for women and men. So the question today is a simple one. It shouldn't spark to much debate, for those who are scared of "real talk". What makes you commit to someone?

Business as Usual?

"SEX" in a relationship..........Is this a perk or part of the job description?

Now before anyone automatically assume that I am an individual that has been hurt before and want to be a reformed "virgin"..................THAT'S NOT IT!!!!

What I want to know is do you appreciate the sexual intimacy that you share with your mate and see it as something that he or she shares with you out of no obligation.............or do you say that is just part of a relationship and we should be having sex?.................Inquiring minds want to know..............