Is It A Crime?: Cheating

There are two kinds of cheating in my book. There is the Crime of Passion cheating in which two people where in the same place at the same time and the lust and the alcohol took over and you just couldnt stop yourself and there is the pre-meditated cheating in which you went out of your way to disrepect your significant other. I mean you sent text messages (sexting), e-mails, smoke signals trying to set up the infidelity. Now both, of course are totally unacceptable and if you're single you can just choose to move on and shoot the deuces. BUT!!!!! What if you're married, I am not sure I could just throw in the towel without thinking some things through first. Now The Crime of Passion Cheating I can understand more because it is a sin of the flesh which means we need to go to church more and receive some good word to help him yield from temptation....but boy OH boy, that Pre-meditated cheating is worth leaving for, because you had ample of enough time to nip it in the bud but DID NOT!

Then what's the use of getting back with someone who cheats knowing it will never be the same. The dynamic of the relationship will change and often times not for the better! Rarely people grow closer due to infidelity.

So what would you do? Would take him or her back? share your story~

Everybody Hurts....

As we look for the perfect mate we often talk about how he needs to look, how tall he needs to be and what type of job or education we would like for him. vIn looking at these superficial characteristics of a "good man" we often do not pay attention to the actual make up of what makes him "good". Every woman may have different tolerance level but in the end, we should all agree that the man should not harm a woman.

Last night I received news that my little cousin, who's really not so little anymore was shot in the head by her boyfriend. I am left wondering did she have signs of what type of person he was, and did she ignore them? When they got into their first argument did he ever call her out of her name? How did he treat his mom? How did treat other women? These are important questions because that one question could have been the one thing that saved her life.

Then I think that what could I done as a family member to help choose more carefully. What can I do as a citizen of the world to prevent more domestic deaths. Can I teach girls early on their worth and their value is much more important than having a man who will not value you your life.

We must do better. I must do better and helping. It starts today!

So ask you what are some of the actions or things we can do to help the next generation to choose wisely and value their life? or What are some of the warning signs to run from a relationship?

Stuff that NEOS do!

I saw an event coming up in Dallas called the Dallas Alumni Greekshow, and I remember how it felt when I just crossed AKA back in Spring 99, from The BreathTaking Beta Tau Chapter at LeMoyne Owen College. I remember as soon as I crossed I was deemed "STEPMASTER", and boy where we a forced to be reckoned with under my leadership (<------me tooting my on horn). Then I realized it's 2011, and I am officially considered an "OLD Head", but real talk I still got it. If I wanted to I know I can still out step the best of these young whippersnappers (<--proof that I am old).

I digress, talks amongnst yourselves, here I will give you a topic, The Dallas Alumni Greekshow will be an event to see for the true old heads, which Sorority or Fraternity will take it all? DISCUSS!


So back to the originally topic, After thinking about my glory days, I started to think about things NEOs did that its hard for us old heads to come to grips with, like:

Stuff Neos Do:

1. Wear too much paraphenalia
2. Constantly refers "my line sisters" or "The Bros"
3. Turn every song the DJ plays into a strut off
4. Don't have friends outside of the Organization
5. Take Fraternity and Sorority differences a little too serious on the yard!
6. Lives by the stereotype of the Organization.
7. Recite "Invictus" too damn much, to prove you PLEDGE (when anyone can learn that really)
8.Quick to wanna pledge someone else.
9. Think your shit don't stank!
10. Think the "Old Heads" should speak to you since you're new (that will be the other way around).


That's a short list.....but what else would you like to add "OLD HEADS"......at any rate the Old Heads will be getting together March 17th in Dallas, Texas for the Dallas Alumni Greekshow, 7p,-10pm

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Computer Love......

Yes,I may be falling for the man I never met. I met this guy online.__________ (<----Insert Judgment here). Yes, that's right online but he doesn't live on the same state as I do. The first time we talked was via e-mail, and right away we got each other's communication style. I could tell he was just as quick witted and smart as me. We exchanged phone numbers and began to talk more and more. The more we talk the more closer it seems we become. He says sweet things to me, and I accept them, but in the back of my mind I wonder is it just a part of a game. Does every girl get's this treament or is it something about me that has him to let his gaurd down. Is it because I am so far away and by default I am not able to be so attached?

I will meet the man I am falling for in a month, he's coming to see the Dallas Cowboys (or cowtricks or cowgirls as most would like to call them) play Miami Dolphins (His favorite team). Will we crash and burn or will the chemistry still be there? I hope....

Have you ever fallen for someone your never formally met? Is it possible? Is Chemistry only a physical trait and not mentally? Tell me your thoughts and share your stories....

Spitting Game........

You don't wanna fall in love with me, because falling in love with me and accepting that responsibility means things in your life will automatically change. You can't love me and be the same dude you always been. Loving me is a reponsibility, it comes with being better than you have ever been. You have to pull yourself up by your boot straps and understand that the status quo is not an option. When you love me, you will love like you never loved before. The love I give is so strong, it will give you power to make a difference in the world. I need that C.E.O. love, not that, clean up on aisle 9 love. See you don't wanna fall in love with me, my love requires you not to be lazy it gives you ENERGY. I got that "It gives you WINGS" kinda love, not that "You should had a V8" love....

See I understand if you must move, because my love makes you do things you may not be ready to do...I won't let you love me in the least, I got that maximum love...Naw, you don't wanna fall in love with me....

Random spitting game is an art form, sometimes it's something to laugh at but sometimes it's just a true statement that came out cold as ice..What's the coldest thing you ever said to someone or the best game you ever witness or heard....Come on let's spit some game

Old Men and Worms

Now I don't know where the myth came from or where it started, but it was an old tale that if a young girl messed with a old man that she would get worms...Now That has got to be the most funniest thing I ever heard in life, but it did deter me from dating older guys for a long time. What is considered old anyway? I have students that say I am old and I am only 32. The oldest guy I dated was 40 when I was 29 and let me just tell you it grossed me out, not that he was 40 but he just act old and he didnt act that way when I met him. Maybe it was a figment of my imagination because 40 isnt an old age. I mean let's face it, Will Smith, Denzel, Shemar Moore, Tyson Beckford are all over 40, and like Beyonce sings, "I told my friends you can GET IT"....and guys what about Stacey Dash, Jada Pinkett Smith and Lisa Raye all over 40 as well...and I don't even have to ask about whether or not they can get it from you...lol. But what about Cicely Tyson? or Tina Turner? and ladies what about Morgan Freeman or Harry Belafonte? would you even consider it?

So my question today is what is too old for you to date? What is your cut off? or Do you not have a cutoff and date the person not the age? Share your experience of dating an older person and why?

The Perfect Mate?!

I was kicking with some friends this weekend and they met a guy that I once dated but we are still cool. Once he left, everyone agreed that brother was FIONNE (that's fine for none African American Dialect speakers). I mean he was tall, nice caramel complexion with and a nice lean muscular physique, but the brother the seem two sandwiches short of a picnic, he was a pie with two slices missing, he wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer...well you get my point! He was fine with no real substance.

So one of my friends said "Well he fine, but he doesn't seem to be too smart. You can't have it all. Either you're gonna date a guy that's fine who is not that smart or a guy that is smart and not that fine"

That got me to thinking that most women would date the guy that was not so fine but smart while guys would probably date the girl that is not so smart but FINE. I could be wrong, but I know I could never take a fine guy who is not smart seriously. They are the Mr. Right Now and not my Mr. Right.

Have you ever dated a woman or man who lack the brains but had all the beauty? Did you take them seriously? Or have you dated a smart woman or man but couldn't get over that you werent attracted to them? Or can you have BOTH?