Old Men and Worms

Now I don't know where the myth came from or where it started, but it was an old tale that if a young girl messed with a old man that she would get worms...Now That has got to be the most funniest thing I ever heard in life, but it did deter me from dating older guys for a long time. What is considered old anyway? I have students that say I am old and I am only 32. The oldest guy I dated was 40 when I was 29 and let me just tell you it grossed me out, not that he was 40 but he just act old and he didnt act that way when I met him. Maybe it was a figment of my imagination because 40 isnt an old age. I mean let's face it, Will Smith, Denzel, Shemar Moore, Tyson Beckford are all over 40, and like Beyonce sings, "I told my friends you can GET IT"....and guys what about Stacey Dash, Jada Pinkett Smith and Lisa Raye all over 40 as well...and I don't even have to ask about whether or not they can get it from you...lol. But what about Cicely Tyson? or Tina Turner? and ladies what about Morgan Freeman or Harry Belafonte? would you even consider it?

So my question today is what is too old for you to date? What is your cut off? or Do you not have a cutoff and date the person not the age? Share your experience of dating an older person and why?

The Perfect Mate?!

I was kicking with some friends this weekend and they met a guy that I once dated but we are still cool. Once he left, everyone agreed that brother was FIONNE (that's fine for none African American Dialect speakers). I mean he was tall, nice caramel complexion with and a nice lean muscular physique, but the brother the seem two sandwiches short of a picnic, he was a pie with two slices missing, he wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer...well you get my point! He was fine with no real substance.

So one of my friends said "Well he fine, but he doesn't seem to be too smart. You can't have it all. Either you're gonna date a guy that's fine who is not that smart or a guy that is smart and not that fine"

That got me to thinking that most women would date the guy that was not so fine but smart while guys would probably date the girl that is not so smart but FINE. I could be wrong, but I know I could never take a fine guy who is not smart seriously. They are the Mr. Right Now and not my Mr. Right.

Have you ever dated a woman or man who lack the brains but had all the beauty? Did you take them seriously? Or have you dated a smart woman or man but couldn't get over that you werent attracted to them? Or can you have BOTH?

Lovers and Friends by Nylajar

A friend of mine told me the other day that a man doesn’t want to be cool with his woman, you know, she becomes his homie because that is the one woman he can never lie to and the one woman he is afraid of losing control over…I’m a little confused on that one because most men say they want a woman who is his best friend and many women say the same. I personally feel like a woman should be able to kick it with her dude and his homeboys and I think a dude should be able to kick it with his girl and her homegirls from time to time. However, many say you shouldn’t mix the two worlds but I disagree. I think a woman should be able to hit the bar and watch a game with her man from time to time and he should be able to hit the mall with her from time to time to go shopping or even hit up the nail shop. They should be able to do some of the things that same-sex friends do…but is that too much for a relationship? I personally think that a man should be able to hang out with his boys alone, she hang out with her girls alone from time to time but they can intertwine the two sometimes. However, I think sometimes the friends are the ones that have a problem because they will say, “Dang, why is he bringing her with him to watch the game, this is a man’s world” or “Dang, why she bringing him shopping with us?”….As long as you balance your alone time with your together time, should it be a problem that you hang out with your girl/gal’s friends from time to time?

Sex with the Ex by Nola Darling

Women and Men, remember that time when you broke up with a guy or girl (or they broke up with you and you just don't want to admit it....lol). Then you find out that they moved on to someone else...and so quickly after you broke up. Then something happens!, they call or text you out of the blue saying how much they missed you or thought of you...You think to yourself, "It must not be working out to well with the new boo?".. He or she wants to see you, and of course you oblige because now your EGO is involved. You wanna see if you can have this person if you still wanted. You want to see how faithful your ex is when he or she is in another relationship. Then you see the ex and it's like nothing changed, chemistry is still there, of course and you have SEX with the EX. Now for you it's not really a big deal because you're not promised to anyone, but they are.. Once it's over you get this sense of relief. You think to yourself..If it's that easy for you to cheat with me then it must have been that easy when we were in a relationship. Then you realize, that the EX wasn't a keeper afterall. Now this in now way shape or form is healthy for anyone to indugle in, but it happens.. From this simple turn of events you then realize that, he or she was actually the Best Thing You Never Had!...

So peeps have you ever been in a similar situation? Where you the Ex that cheated with your old boo?

Confession Friday's: Getting even

Let's face it, sometimes love stinks. People say all the good there is about loving someone but there is a lot of bad sometimes too. When you love someone but it's not working out the way love should, that person ends up pissing you off and you say and do some stuff/things that you did out of anger or disgust!

Let's be real, we all have done something to a person we dated, love or smashing to make them mad, angry or just plan to get even!

So everyone sign in as ANONYMOUS and share the bittersweet things you did while dating someone.

Can We Just Go To The Courthouse Already??? by Asimplejoy

Can We Just Go To The Courthouse Already???

“He’s always doing things with his kids.” The statement that my ex’s soon to be ex-wife said to him. One of the many reasons why she is saying it is time for the marriage to come to an end. Ok now they have 3 children (she has one from a previous relationship) a nice home, both gainfully employed and pretty good family life. But she has decided to leave him for a guy that has 3 kids by 3 different women and the latest he had recently in the midst of their “relationship”. Which I have yet to understand how you can possibly have a relationship while still married?.........not saying that you can’t sleep with someone outside of your marriage but how do you actually define that as a relationship? Well while talking to him because he was taking it pretty hard because he really loves his wife, kids and have become accustomed to his family life. I told him please please tell her to call me because I would love to warn her that there is NOTHING in these streets for her…………… I can totally see her months or even a year from now wanting to come back. Me personally I think she is absolutely nuts and I don’t want her to find out the hard way but give me a break!!! Would you take her back? Do situations like this affect your outlook on marriage?